3 ways an open cup can help prevent picky eating

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Everything you need to know about picky eating and open cups

(… and I’m doing a give-away too! )

People I have worked with will know that I am always banging on about the merits of the open cup. I often meet parents of toddlers with eating problems who still drink from a bottle with a teat. This is really common – it’s extremely easy to get stuck with a habit that is comforting to your child, especially if it’s part of your bedtime routine. Making transitions like this ( for example, ditching dummies / pacifiers) takes time and energy that are in short supply for most parents. Continue reading

A tale of a dozen oysters

When I was 14, my parents sent me to France to live with a family over the Summer, in the hope that I would learn some French and come back mature, well-rounded and independent (and I think they wanted a break from my teenage mega-strops). I did come back speaking French, so it half worked.

image by Jeremy Keith - source: creative commons

image by Jeremy Keith – source: creative commons

The family I was inflicted upon were called the Chevaliers and they took me with them to their chalet by the sea in St. Jean de Monts on the West coast of France. We always ate outside which was a huge novelty for me, but even more of a culture shock was what we ate. Day 1: lunch began with a plate of a dozen oysters with a wedge of lemon. Continue reading

The feeding paradox

At the heart of my work with the parents of picky eaters is a secret. An idea that is extremely simple and yet can be very hard to accept. I call it ‘The Feeding Paradox‘. Here it is.

‘The harder you try, the worse things will get’

or, to put a positive spin on it,

‘The less you try, the more progress you will make’

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This is counter-intuitive because our natural instinct as parents is to look at a problem we are experiencing, summon the strength to tackle it and then try as hard as we can to make things better. When it comes to feeding, I teach people to try not to try.  Continue reading

Multivitamins for picky eaters?

Choosing whether or not to give children vitamin supplements is not quite the simple decision that it might seem.  Many parents of picky eaters give multi-vitamins as it allays their anxiety about their child’s limited diet. But what do the experts say? Well, lots of different things, as it turns out.

vitamin supplementsI am not a dietitian – my expertise is in the psychological, emotional and behavioural aspects of picky eating so I am not out to tell parents what vitamins their children need. I thought it would be useful though, to sum up some of the thinking about mutivitamins and to suggest a few things to consider before choosing to supplement your fussy eater’s diet.

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Should you worry about your fussy eater’s weight?

bigstock-Toddler-Girl-Bubbles-451591My last post was about the importance of acknowledging that you have a problem with your child’s eating and making the decision that you want things to change. So what next?

I normally steer well clear of self-help books, but some time ago, I read Getting Things Done by David Allen. Aside from the joys of owning my very own labeller, one of the key things I got from this book is the notion of the ‘next action’. It’s a brilliantly simple concept whereby you define the next action for any given task. Then you do it. It’s that simple. This enables you to begin seemingly overwhelming challenges because even the most daunting of projects has a ‘next action’ that in itself may not be daunting at all.

If you have decided that you want to improve mealtimes in your house, here’s your next action: Get your child’s weight and growth checked by a health professional. Here in the UK, this will mean a trip to see your health visitor. In the US, a visit to your pediatrician.  Continue reading

First steps…

“A journey of a thousand miles must begin with one small step”  

Lao Zu

stepsHelping your child overcome issues with food is no different from tackling the other myraid of parenting challenges that life throws at us. The real beginning of the journey  is about acknowledging that you have a problem. If you have a picky eater in the family, there are so many reasons why  you may not yet have sought help. You may be unsure of where to go for support, you may have complex feelings about your child’s eating, perhaps secretly suspecting that you may be part of the problem – facing up to these emotions is not easy.

Sometimes, the status quo does not seem too bad. Almost without exception, the families of fussy eaters that I have worked with have established certain ways of doing things that allow them to make mealtimes as tolerable as they can be. For example, they may have become accustomed to sticking to a small repertoire of foods they know their child will eat; they may have rules that they go along with, like not having any foods touching.

Maybe you are genuinely happy with your child eating a limited diet, but in my experience, this is unlikely. It can just seem so hard to imagine things being any different. If any of the following things are true for you, you are on the road to happier and healthier mealtimes:

  • I want us to eat a wider variety of foods as a family
  • I want us to be able to all eat the same things
  • I want to be able to enjoy meals out together
  • I want my child to find social situations involving food easy
  • I want my child to be an adventurous eater who enjoys food

If you can say “I want my child to have a better relationship with food and I’m ready to make some changes”  take heart, because you have already begun your journey. 

My next post will help you with what to do next.

Festive family meals – happy holidays or a recipe for stress?

 

xmas24For the most part, children’s mealtime behaviour happens behind closed doors.  However, whether it’s Thanksgiving, Christmas or a feast day from another cultural tradition, big family meals mean eating in front of many people  – often a time when parents of fussy eaters feel judged.  Many parents tell me that they avoid revealing the full extent of their child’s restricted eating because they are embarrassed about it or feel that it’s some kind of reflection on them. At big family meals, there’s nowhere to hide.

If you are worried about making it through to the new year without any  food dramas, follow these three tips: Continue reading